We've already got a teen, now a tween??

The above pic is the first time we met Abigail Joo Mee.  Her foster mother had her all dolled up.  We met in the office at Eastern Social Welfare Society in Seoul. Sweet and compliant little girl, with a stubborn streak, just to keep things fun.  She's 11 now.  The tween has hit.  Just yesterday she came holding a pair of brand spanking new flats that are too tight.  I had tried to talk her into black ones.  She wouldn't listen and insisted she liked the beige patton ones.  Guess what, never wore them, not once--Oh wait, unless you count the time she wore them to walk the dog around the block because she wanted something to "slip on."   Great choice dear.  I got on to her about wasting the nicer clothes and shoes that I buy and how she wears the same old ratty things all the time.  I asked her if there was a better solution to wasting brand new nice shoes.  She had a solution alright.  She said "I'll just wear tennis shoes everyday."  Gonna pull my hair out one at a time somedays.  Carter is almost 16 and has gotten much more likable the last month or so.  And now, my sweet princess, the only girl in the house, she's entering the twilight zone of tweendom!!  PS, her bedtime is 9:10--yes, I said 9:10 because I'm a cool mom like that.  Not a pansy 9pm bedtime like children, a very cool 9:10 bedtime.