Thursday, March 12, 2009

From my heart(soapbox) about how all this came to be

So, here are a few non-coincidences that have happened over the past few months to lead us to a place where we can say, YEP, God called us to adopt Hudson(Mike had the name idea and I love it!). We have not been interested in starting the typical adoption process of paperwork, sitting on a waiting list for an infant with 20 other families since bringing home Dillon. As many of you know, our sweet little man(he's 6) has some special needs. He was only 4.5months of age when he came home, so to those who ask "did you know about his problems when he came home?" I have to ask if you know about any special needs that might develop later on down the road when a child is only 4.5months of age? Anyway, our eyes have been open to all the precious children in the world who deserve a loving mommy and daddy but get passed by because of medical or developmental "what ifs, maybes, and could be." My heart yearned and ached for the millions(143million to be exact) orphaned children inthe world, but especially those passed over because of a special need. We knew that if we adopted again, it would be using our same agency, a child in Korea, and most likely a toddler boy! So, for the last 5months or so, we'd been consistently saving for whatever God called us to do. The money was earmarked for missions or adoption. We are very frugal and tithe faithfully off our gross income. We are not at all wealthy, at least according to American standards(ask a starving child in Haiti that question and we are filthy rich and spoiled!). We drive old cars, live in a house/neighborhood that we can afford, and do our best to honor God. The Lord has multiplied our money. Have you ever balanced your checkbook and had an extra 400.00 that shouldn't be there? Well, it has happened to us the last 2 or 3 months. This baby boy's Korean name is a combo of Abby and Dillon's except one letter. His birth history is an exact combo of Abby and Dillon's birth histories, except for 1 other item that could possibly be something to deal with later, or might never turn into anything. Our pediatrician thought he looked great. He's developing perfectly on target. When we were really stressed and praying for God to give us an answer about whether or not to move forward with his paperwork, Mike was in a classroom staring all day at a plaque right in front of him that said Be still and know that I am God(psalm 46;10). All our reasons for not adopting this child were selfish ones: money, time, and disruption of our smoothe life. So, we sent in the initial paperwork a week and a half ago. There was another family looking at him, so we had to wait a week for the social work committee at Dillon to decide which family fit best. We prayed so hard all that week of waiting that if this would overwhelm our family, cause financial ruin, or we were not the right family for the little boy, then would God please close the door firmly and let Dillon Int. pick the other family. On Tuesday was the meeting. That morning in my daily Bible reading time, my Psalm passage was chapter 46. I had not picked to read that, it was my Read the Bible in a year pre-planned passage for that day. I read verse 10 and got chills "Be still and know that I am God." The committee decided our family was the right one for Hudson. Am I nervous-YEP! I'm thrilled and scared all at the same time. We aren't clueless people. We realize there are sacrifices and choices to make. Will Mike have a new truck anytime soon-NO. Will our kids get vehicles for their 16 birthday-NO. I'm sure we will survive ;) God's Word proves over and over how he provides for the people willing to obey and step out in faith. Look at the miracle of feeding the 5000 with a few fish and loaves. Where God guides, He provides. As for Hudson's "what ifs" that kept him waiting for a family--what if he does end up with a medical issue? At least he will have a loving mommy and daddy(and siblings) to walk with him through that. Is our son Dillon less deserving a family because he has special needs. NO. If any of you have been around our little crazy man, you agree that he brings joy and laughter to everyone he meets. He is the reason I titled this blog Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, I know this full well.
So, there you have it. Sorry for the soapbox ranting. Just had to get it off my chest ;) We are delighted at this privelage to raise another beautiful Korean child. Carter, Abby, and Dillon are super excited and are showing his picture at school. Carter discovered that carrying around Hudson's picture was a good chick magnet!!!
We move on to the mountain loads of paperwork phase. We also move on to fundraising. We are having a HUGE garage sale next week and April 25th. If anybody has decent stuff to donate, I'll come pick it up and label it all for you. Proceeds will go to help bringing little Hudson home to his forever family.
Thanks,
Libby

9 comments:

  1. Praise God for His wonder working power on both yours and Hudsons behalf!!! I am so thrilled to watch you bring him home!! I know God has wonderful plans for the whole family!! Blessings from Oklahoma!!
    Anita

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  2. Congratulations!!! We are super excited for you guys! I'm happy you started this blog... keep up posted. :) I love Hudson's picture!

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  3. I am so happy, unbelievably thrilled, for you, Mike and the kids!! I know this has been your hearts desire for many years and you have patiently prayed for God to hear you and answer in His way. What a wonderful family Hudson will be coming home to. Love and Prayers...

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  4. He is just too cute! :) We won't be buying our kids cars at 16 either and our van is on it's last leg but I can't tell you what a blessing it is to follow God's will and bring these children into your home even when the world says you can't afford it! I'm so excited for you guys and well enjoy following your adoption journey.

    This is Rachel who you met at the Special Needs Adoption Group btw.

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  5. How cool! I'm so happy for you! And what a little prince he is! It all makes me smile. Garage sale at your house?

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  6. I am the extremely proud Grandmother of this little one! I am so proud of Libby and Mike for putting the needs of this little boy above their own financial plans. One of my best memories of my whole life was the day Libby and Mike got off the airplane with little Abby and put her in my arms. God has chosen to build our family with children from different races and different backgrounds. What a wonderful blessing.

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  7. congrats skaggs family!! what a blessing to hear of another family that puts God first instead of money! we also live similar and after being unemployed for a month we have seen God honor our choices and he continues to provide... and yes, where does the mystery money come from?:) our prayers will be with you guys and i may have some clothes for little baby! cooper got a lot of new stuff, after christopher and nate some of them just had to go!

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  8. Soooo excited to know that you will soon be the proud parents of four precious angels, too! Congratulations! Hudson is beautiful, and so blessed is the family who is given the privilege of loving and caring for him. We are not prepared for college in 4 years for our newest(or a car in TWO years), but we will be happy and survive in spite of that. Material things are overrated and are not what life is about. This type of blessing will never leave you feeling empty. Congrats to Grandma Jeanette, too! Can't wait to meet him and see him united with his family - there is no greater blessing for any of you. I'm so proud of you for following your hearts to do what you know is right even though it may appear insane to others. Ha! Who are we to question God's plan, even though it may not make sense or differs from our own? It's so easy to be selfish and turn our backs to precious children who deserve a family. Hooray to you for not doing that. You guys rock! Love & hugs always! Joey, Kim, Lindsay, Connor, Keegan, & Jules

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  9. Libby, Libby, Libby, EEK! We are sooooooooooo exicted for all of yoU! As a family who adopted our 4th child 9 months ago...well, it's thrilling to see you grow your family again! We join you in modest living! Am so thankful for contentment, because we are. Woohoo we can't wait to keep hearing! Huge hugs & love, Denise

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