talking to friends about adoption

We had a super sweet dinner tonight with 2 families from  our church.  Both families are at different ages and stages of life, but both are very interested in building their families through adoption(they have biological children already).  Neither know which direction to head just yet and are praying for the Lord to speak to them clearly.  Mike and I have had a lot of these kinds of meals over the past 10 or so years.  This one was really nice. Our friends are kind, warm, and excited(and nervous) to grow their families through an adoption miracle.
I think Mike and I have grown, chilled, and matured a lot.  Truthfully, after Abby came home we(especially me) were adoption dynamos.  I was appalled at the apathy that the majority of Christians had towards adoption and orphans.  If a couple asked a few questions about our adoption process, I'd pounce on them. I think it almost was a way of validating--you know, if they began the adoption process then it made me feel like we'd accomplished the task.  Trouble was, we were disappointed over and over.  Many times Mike and I have had the conversation that begins with "I can't believe they haven't adopted."  Now, we are different.  I love talking to people about adoption and about our journey to build our family.  We openly share the joys, confusing times, the hurdles, the celebrations, the time delays, the mounds of paperwork, the zillions of rude and personal questions people ask us, the financial difficulties, and the wonderfully fun and brilliant experiences we've had being a transcultural family.  However, the personal agenda of convincing people into fostering and/or adopting is gone.  We have to come the place of letting the Holy Spirit speak into people's lives on His own.  Absolutely we cheer and educate followers of Jesus to be involved in fostering, adopting, and orphancare.  But, what they do with the info is their business.  Their lives are their lives and they may not be a family that is called to adopt(heck, there are some who flat out have no business adopting).
 As for Mike and I,our lives are blessed and amazing. The children we have, biological and adopted, add pieces to the puzzle that can never be replaced. We can only trust and obey the one in whom we live and have our being, Jesus Christ.